Saturday, January 29, 2005

a little money  
the other day at the post office, the lady tried to give me five dollars extra back in change. i was quick to say to her, 'i only gave you a five, not a ten.' therefore, i made no money. i was honest. i've been in this situation before and was always honest. i returned a $100 bill when i was younger. i found a wallet once [it was void of money]. i gave it to the post office where i was told they would return it by mail for free.

my friends say that they would not be so honest. what would you do if you found a wallet? if you found money? or if you were accidentally given too much change?

Did you know that in the movie, Pulp Fiction, Jules' "Bad Mother Fucker" wallet actually belongs to Quentin Tarantino?

Thursday, January 27, 2005

oh the books 
a list of books that i'm reading [permapost]:

June 2008:
Mary Higgins Clark - Where Are You Now?
Michael Palmer - The Society
Heather Graham - The Death Dealer

Spring 2008:
i have erased the original list i started this year. instead, here's just a few of the titles i've dove into this semester: Class, Race, Gender, and Crime; On Crimes and Punishments; Tricks of the Trade: How to Think About Your Research While You're Doing It; Crime, Shame and Reintegration; Neighborhoods and Crime; A Primer on the Construction and Testing of Theories in Sociology; Crime, Punishment, and Deterrence; A General Theory of Crime, The Coming Crisis of Western Sociology; Social Stratification and Inequality; Social Sources of Delinquency; The Structure of Scientific Revolutions; Categorically Unequal: The American Stratification System; Masculinities and Crime; Crime and the American Dream; Street Woman; The Disenfranchisement of Ex-Felons; Qualitative Interviewing; The Way We Never Wer; Crime in the Making; Control Balance; Crime, Inequality and the State.

September through December 2007:
Bohm and Walker - Demystifying Crime and Criminal Justice
Geis and Dodge - Lessons of Criminology
Hancock and Paul M. Sharp - Public Policy, Crime, and Criminal Justice
Barlow and Hagan - Crime and Public Policy
Thomas R. Dye - Understanding Public Policy
August 2007:
C. Wright Mills - The Sociological Imagination
Jean-Jacques Rousseau / Cranston - The Social Contract
Lisa Scottoline - Courting Trouble
Stephen King - The Colorado Kid
John Saul - The Devil's Labyrinth
Pamela Redmond Satran - The Man I Should Have Married
July 2007:
Lisa Scottoline - Dead Ringer
Faye Kellerman - Sacred and Profane
Tami Hoag - The Alibi Man
Nelson DeMille - Night Fall
Lisa Scottoline - Moment of Truth
Sherrilyn Kenyon ... - My Big Fat Supernatural Wedding
Lisa Scottoline - Killer Smile
June 2007:
Anne Perry - Hyde Park Headsman
Dean Koontz - The Good Guy
M. J. Rose - The Halo Effect
Porter Shreve - The Obituary Writer
Michael McGarrity - The Judas Judge
Luanne Rice - Beach Girls
May 2007:
Frank Turner Hollon - Blood and Circumstance :-)
Dean Koontz - Brother Odd
Allison Brennan - Fear No Evil
Jilliane Hoffman - Retribution
April 2007:
Kathy Reichs - Deja Dead
Erica Spindler - Copycat
Mattie J.T. Stepanek - Heartsongs
March 2007:
Larry Elder - The Ten Things You Can't Say in America
Tami Hoag - Prior Bad Acts
Keith Lee Johnson - Sugar & Spice
February 2007:
oh man, i forgot to list them up here... i know i got three books from the library and one of them was so good...
January 2007:
Fred Rosen - Did They Really Do it?: From Lizzie Borden to the 20th Hijacker :-(
Wendy Corsi Staub - The Final Victim
Mitch Albom - For One More Day :-)
John Grisham - The Innocent Man: Murder and Injustice in a Small Town :-)

December 2006:
oh, books for the spring semester: Sociology of Deviant Behavior, Deviant Behavior, The Sociology of Gender
November 2006:
Dorothy Gilman - Mrs. Pollifax Unveiled :-(
Judith Kelman - Every Step You Take :-)
Maya Angelou - Just Give Me a Cool Drink of Water 'Fore I Diiie
T. S. Eliot - Selected Poems
October 2006:
Michael Newton - Still at Large: A Casebook of 20th Century Serial Killers Who Eluded Justice :-)
Dean Koontz - The Husband :-)
September 2006:
Michelle Tea - Without a Net :-)
Jonathan Kellerman and Faye Kellerman - Double Homicide :-)
QB Wells - Blackface: A Novel :-)
Gary L. Katz - Death by Rock and Roll: The Untimely Deaths of Rock's Legends :-
Jodi Thomas - Finding Mary Blaine :-)
Amanda Quick - Wait Until Midnight :-
Peter Abresch - Killing Thyme :-
J. F. Freedman - Bird's-Eye View :-
Tami Hoag - Magic :-(
August 2006:
David Hunt - The Magician's Tale :-)
Fern Michaels - Picture Perfect :-)
Maggie Shayne - Thicker Than Water :-)
Watkins and Jones - Unforgettable Things to Do Before You Die :-)
July 2006:
John Dean - Conservatives Without Conscience :-)
John Saul - In the Dark of the Night :-)
Dan Brown - The Davinci Code [re-read]
Margaret Truman - Murder in the White House :-
Dean Koontz - The Face :-)
John Clarkson - And Justice for One:-)
June 2006:
Avery Corman - Prized Possessions :-)
Michael Daly - Under Ground
John Lescroart - The Oath [pretty good]
May 2006:
Edna Buchanan - Cold Case Squad [pretty good]
Roderick Anscombe - Shank [re-read]
April 2006:
James D. Lester - Writing Research Papers in the Social Sciences [cause it was there]
Carolyn G. Keene - Nancy Drew stories: The Secret of the Old Clock, The Hidden Staircase, The Bungalow Mystery, The Mystery at Lilac Inn, The Secret of Shadow Ranch
sorry i have not updated. been reading and considering books for adoption in class in the fall. books like Exploring Social Life, Gender and Social Life, Juvenile Delinquency and Justice 06/07 and Criminology .
March 2006:
Eric W. Hickey - Serial Murderers and their Victims [yep]
Jerome Clark - Unexplained! [interesting]
February 2006:
Stephen White - Remote Control [liked it]
John Brunner - Children of the Thunder [i was disappointed]
Greg Iles - The Quiet Game [liked it]
David Baldacci - Saving Faith [liked it]
January 2006:
Dean Koontz - Strange Highways [good...i liked 'bruno']
Brad Meltzer - The First Counsel [re-read]
Jasmine Cresswell - Dead Ringer [liked it]
Fay Weldon - Wicked Women: Stories [not much to my taste]
Dean Koontz - Odd Thomas [interesting.... a good read]
John Saul - Perfect Nightmare : A Novel [fantastic, as i expected]

December 2005:
John Saul - The Blackstone Chronicles [re-read-of course i have it in six installments]
Bari Wood - Doll's Eyes [re-read]
Stephen King - Nightmares and Dreamscapes [re-read]
David Baldacci - Last Man Standing [good stuff]
November 2005:
Carlton Smith - Fatal Charm: The Shocking True Story of Serial Wife Killer Randy Roth [interesting story, i should read more true crime]
David R. Struckhoff - Annual Editions : Juvenile Delinquency and Justice 06/07 [there's great stuff in here]
uh, back issues of Rolling Stone so far.
October 2005:
Bonnie MacDougal - Out of Order [very good story]
Greg Iles - 24 Hours [liked it a lot]]
John Saul - The Presence [it's a re-read]
September 2005:
Lee Child - Persuader [awesome!]
Jane Smiley - Moo [interesting...]
Ridley Pearson - The Body of David Hayes [pretty good, i wouldn't tell the world]
August 2005:
Dan Brown - Deception Point [liked it a lot]
Larson and Amstutz - Youth Violence and Gangs [interesting]
Jonathan Kellerman - Dr. Death [this is a re-read also]
July 2005:
Thomas Baum - Out of Body [read it before, it's good]
Jeffery Deaver - The Vanished Man [good stuff]
John Grisham - The Partner [loved it, just like all grisham books]
Sharyn McCrumb - If I'd Killed Him When I Met Him [liked it]
June 2005:
F. Paul Wilson - The Haunted Air [liked it a lot]
Barbara Solomon - American Families: 28 Short Stories [it was alright]
Dean Koontz - Lightning [liked it]
Steve Thayer - The Weatherman [liked it a lot]
May 2005:
Don D'Ammassa - Servants of Chaos [didn't like it]
Bentley Little - The Walking [liked it]
Bentley Little - The Return [liked it a lot]
Dean Koontz - The Bad Place [loved it! loved it!]
April 2005:
VA - From the Borderlands [currently]
John Lescroart - The First Law [hated it. and too many characters]
March 2005:
J.A. Jance - Devil's Claw [liked it]
William Lashner - Fatal Flaw [loved it. a lot.]
John Sandford - Certain Prey [loved it. chick killers rule.]
Sharon Sala - Dark Water [liked it]
February 2005:
Joel Goldman - Cold Truth [liked it very much]
Jennifer Cruise - Fast Women [liked it]
Henry and Lanier - What Is Crime? [as i expected]
Alice Hoffman - Here On Earth [surprisingly, i liked it very much]
David Baldacci - Split Second [liked it]
January 2005:
Alex Alvarez and Ronet Bachman - Murder American Style [loved it]
John Grisham - The Testament [loved it]
Michael Connelly - The Black Ice [hated it]
Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo - He's Just Not That Into You [liked it]
John Saul - Black Creek Crossing [loved it]

end of 2004 books:
Dan Brown - Digital Fortress [loved it]
Erica Spindler - Fortune [loved it]
Erica Spindler - Bone Cold [loved it]
John Grisham - The King of Torts [loved it]
John Grisham - Bleachers [loved it]
Denise Hamilton - Sugar Skull [not impressed]
Michael Connelly - Chasing the Dime [liked it]

that's all i can remember now. i know there was a couple of tami hoag books in there somewhere.


Wednesday, January 26, 2005

introverted sensing feeling perceiving  
[quiz] My Bloginality is ISFP.

the first page that explains ISFP has a lot on it that does not apply to me. particularly: 'Many eagerly plunge into new fashions, avant garde experiences, 'hip' trends--some even setting the trends.' and 'Organized education is difficult for the majority of ISFPs, and many drop out before finishing secondary education.'

but this page is better: 'They're likely to be animal lovers, and to have a true appreciation for the beauties of nature... ISFPs have no desire to lead or control others, just as they have no desire to be led or controlled by others... The ISFP is likely to not give themself enough credit for the things which they do extremely well. Their strong value systems can lead them to be intensely perfectionist, and cause them to judge themselves with unneccesary harshness.'


you think? 
[quiz] What Do Guys Like About You?: Guys Like That You're Charming.
You're the girl most guys can't get out of their heads. Even if they met you on a bad hair day :-) You just seem to "click" with everyone you meet. So even if a guy forgets about you for a second... his friends haven't!
charming, so that is what we call it.


Tuesday, January 25, 2005

what students will do 
i have four 'introduction to criminology classes' this semester. last week while discussing various ways of measuring crime, students developed their own victimization and self-report crime surveys. questions like 'have you been the victim of a hit and run?' and 'have you smoked marijuana in the last 30 days?' each class came up with 25 questions of each kind and then answered them. though there were creative measures taken in each class, there was some overlap in the questions that were asked.

selected similarities between classes:

11:00 12:00 2:00 7:00

Rape 6% 9.4% 13%
Vandalism 33.3% 65.6% 47%
Stalking 24.2% 18.8%
DV 12% 25% 16.1% 18.8%

Shoplifting 72.7% 84.3% 77.4% 75%
Hit and Run 42.4% 37.5% 9.7%* 37.5%
DUI 56.2% 71% 50%
Sold Drugs 18.8% 38.8% 18.8%
Vandalism 45.5% 43.8% 46.9%
Used MJ 25% 42%
MJ – month 25% 42% 21.9%

*this was limited to on-campus

update 01/26/05 at 9:10 am: i realize that my table didn't work out. sorry about that. maybe i'll try to fix it later.


Sunday, January 23, 2005

we're going to the superbowl, baby 
here we come! i have no words. philadelphia rocks. i had no doubts about the eagles, but omg did the patriots kill pittsburg.

on a sad note: Johnny Carson died. i'm too young, really, but this sucks.

Saturday, January 22, 2005

i can't wait for sunday 
it's true. you 'can't question the eagles anymore.' and it's supposed to snow like crazy [in philadelphia, not here]. this might make for a really good game.

Thursday, January 20, 2005

hjntiy: part five 
he's mean to you. yells at you. is abusive. this is an easy one, even for me. lose the loser.

well, that's the end of the book all in all, it was very entertaining. i think the lesson is that we should not settle. find the man who likes us for who we are. and treats us with respect. gee, thanks, but i already knew that. employing that philosophy is more difficult. i'll work on that. thanks to greg and liz for the humorous reminders.

now that that is over, [a different] greg will be no longer confused.


ridiculous, really 
we get a half inch of snow yesterday afternoon and the world shuts down. the kid has no school again.

i think it has something to do with the most expensive inauguration in history.

Wednesday, January 19, 2005

i read like a book 
[quiz] Do You Have a Type A Personality?: nope, i'm type b+
You're a pro at going with the flow. You love to kick back and take in everything life has to offer. A total joy to be around, people crave your stability.

While you're totally laid back, you can have bouts of hyperactivity. Get into a project you love, and you won't stop until it's done. You're passionate - just selective about your passions.


hjntiy: part four 
the problem? committment-phobia. when he says he doesn't want to get married [for whatever reason, timing, fear, money, etc.], he's 'saying he doesn't want to get married to you' [page 79]. this chapter actually bugged me a little. marriage is a bit of a touchy topic. you have to read it and make your own decisions on this one. the authors are not debating the insitution of marriage, but rather making the point that if it is important to you, then he should feel the same.

next topic: he disappeared. 'he's made it clear that he's so not into you that he couldn't even bother to leave you a post-it' [page 108]. this is one that i have a problem with. cause there's no answer. no break-up. no excuses. nothing. this is the worst. greg, though, offers simple advice: 'no answer is your answer' [page 110]. don't call him. don't give him the chance to reject you again. still, this is the worst.


hjntiy: part three 
know where your relationship stands.

at the end of chapter three, liz admits that she hates talking about her feelings. scared to talk about the status of your relationship? then your left wondering, hoping, getting excited and then disappointed. i know this one all too well. 'i don't want to spend a lot of energy suppressing all my feelings so i appear uninvolved. i want to be involved' [page 43].

'if a man is not trying to undress you, he's not into you' [page 47]. in other words, if he was into you, he would want to have sex with you. if a man dumped a woman because she wouldn't have sex with him, we would call him an ass. but can a woman dump a man because he won't have sex with her? i've actually thought about this. the authors say yes, do what needs to be done to make yourself happy. i guess you should, even if that makes you an ass. actually, they say to buy a puppy for cuddling and find that special someone out there who 'does want to have sex with you' [page 57]. read this for yourself.


Tuesday, January 18, 2005

google search 
this is funny. someone found my site with this google search: steal a penguin.

what are we going to do with it once we have it?

hjntiy: part two 
'men know how to use the phone.' this is my favorite chapter. greg points out that it is crazy to believe that sometimes men are just too busy to call. he says that men, like women, like to be happy and are comforted by talking to the girl they are into. 'if i were into you, you would be the bright spot in my horribly busy day' [page 23]. therefore nothing would stop him from calling. and it's so easy with cell phones and all. i mean, everyone takes a bathroom break!

the lesson: when he says he will call you tomorrow, and then apologizes that he didn't because he was too busy, he might just be lying. cause there's no such thing as too busy to call. how do you know when they mean it? 'you know they mean it when they actually do what they said they were going to do' [page 27]. this makes sense, don't we want a man who keeps his word?

'he should respect and care for you enough to call you, if only because he knows that it will make you happy' [page 29]. this is what i think, too! but it is hard. maybe he was busy. liz chimes in that sometimes we think 'i like him so damn much that i'm willing to be patient and see how it all turns out' [page 31]. again, we are supposed to stop making excuses for him. he is hurting our feelings and we are better than that.


hjntiy: part one 
the bottomline of the book:

'when a guy is into you, he lets you know it. he calls, he shows up, he wants to meet your friends, he can't keep his eyes or hands off of you, and when it's time to have sex, he's more than overjoyed to ablige.' [page 5].

greg knows guys, cause he is one [which he does point out!]. he knows the guy that we are dating. he knows there are reasons why he can't be with us. he knows he is tired from work, coming from a bad relationship, stressed about money. blah blah blah. the man you are dating is a 'man made up entirely of your excuses' [page 7].

greg says what we [as women] should not do is call him. let the guy call you. 'when men want you, they do the work' [page 17]. i was thinking that this is ridiculous. we are liberated! but then again, he may be right. he would have called if was interested.

stayed tuned for part two: men know how to use the phone.


Monday, January 17, 2005

he's just not that into you 
i know mom was waiting for this. she bought me this book for christmas. i have put off reading it, i think on purpose on some unconscious level. but now i have. and now i will talk about it.

this is a good book. seriously. it is humorous and easy to read. in a series of posts titled 'hjntiy,' i will pick out the main points and share them with you. as a way of spreading the dating advice. i strongly recommend reading the book for yourself, however. it's really funny and my cliff-notes version will not be doing it justice. stay tuned, part one tomorrow.


i did it 
i changed the ju main site. i went with the red, but modified it a bit. it's not quite done, i'm still tweaking. i really want to figure out how to get rid of all that space at the top. give me some time...

thank you, dr. king 
let us not forget.

one team.city.dream 
the vikings went down [27-14]. it was lovely. atlanta will be a breeze. see how confident i am?

also - a playoff trivia fact: David Akers holds the Eagles franchise record with 58 career playoff points.

Thursday, January 13, 2005

i need your input 
i'm thinking about adding some color to the main site. do you like either of these? blue? red? or neither?

feeling dirty? 
clean up. [via]

evolution is a fact 
how about this:

A federal judge Thursday ordered a suburban Atlanta school system to remove stickers from its high school biology textbooks that call evolution "a theory, not a fact," saying the disclaimers are an unconstitutional endorsement of religion.

"This is a great day for Cobb County students," said Michael Manely, an attorney for the parents who sued over the stickers. "They're going to be permitted to learn science unadulterated by religious dogma."

Wednesday, January 12, 2005

jenny, who can i turn to? 
did you ever want to know more about jenny? [via]

Monday, January 10, 2005

city stickers in norfolk 
i was just almost given a ticket for a non-existent law. the city of norfolk passed a law no longer requiring the display of city stickers [decals] on your windshield. the cop told me i needed a 2005 city sticker. i said, "i thought we didn't need them anymore."

he said i did. then he admitted that wasn't sure and let me go with a warning. i asked him if i could just call the police and ask them what the law was. he responded with "i am the police." i then pointed out to him [politely] that he didn't know.

well, i looked it up. decals are no longer required. and even if that wasn't the case, i'd have until february 15 to get a 2005 one.

Sunday, January 09, 2005

the quiz you asked for 
[quiz] How sketchy are you?: You are 41% Sketchy. i can live with that.


Saturday, January 08, 2005

it's still not ok to be gay 
it's not just tinky winky anymore. everyone's gay.
i found this article via echidne.

A pro-family group is accusing homosexual activists of using popular children's TV characters to indoctrinate young children into their lifestyle. Specifically, the group is questioning the intention of a new children's video featuring those characters.

SpongeBob SquarePants, Barney the Dinosaur, Arthur, Dora the Explorer, JoJo, Clifford the Big Red Dog, Big Bird, Bob the Builder -- those and many others are among the characters starring in a music video remake of the 1970s song "We Are Family" that is designed to promote diversity and tolerance in the classroom.

A special DVD version will be distributed to 61,000 public and private elementary schools nationwide, along with lesson plans for teachers. Distribution of the DVD is being donated by FedEx.

Ed Vitagliano, a researcher for the American Family Association, questions the motives behind the project. The problem, he says, is that it is an "open door" to a secondary discussion of homosexuality. [emphasis added]
isn't this a good thing? i'm a bit confused. promoting diversity and tolerance is okay, as long as it's not about homosexuality. what kind of tolerance is okay?

though i have not seen the video, i think it is a good idea. but who even likes barney anymore?


Friday, January 07, 2005

breaking news 
does this mean there's no hope for the future?: Jennifer Aniston and Brad Pitt Separate
or maybe brad will come to VA looking for me.

update 01/08 9:03 am: see it really is big news. i'm not sure why i care.

once again, up at 5 am. this sucks.

Wednesday, January 05, 2005

the littlest things 
this is one of those things. ready? i despise the 'post office will not deliver without postage' square on an envelope. i mean it, i hate it. it's not enough that i see them on my own bills every month, but since i do the bills at work, i see many more than the average person. and i am offended every time. how stupid do they we are? we all know that you need postage to mail something.

what's even worse is the 'place stamp here.' jeez. i wonder if anyone would be offended if i put a stamp in the opposite corner. i bet it would still get delivered. hey, i'm a nonconformist.

some stuff i've noticed 
uncommon goods has some cool stuff. i want this when i get $3000.
dee reminds us not to drunk dial. always good to remember.
i've just discovered acidman. he's playing word games. cool. i think he means ubiquitous.
jfw is back. hooray.
how dumb is this?
a blog you might like [especially if you are into comics and stuff]. i especially like when he was talking about just shoot me. man, i love that show.

and i saved the best for last. you have to see this. i'm gonna link it like crazy for a minute. i want everyone to know. this guy has figured out who really killed john lennon. really. you'd never guess it was steven king.

Tuesday, January 04, 2005

virginia weather 
what's going on here? last week i drove in a snowstorm and today it is 70 degrees.

films in 2004 
the best movies of 2004.

EW has their list: Sideways, Million Dollar Baby, The Incredibles, Maria Full of Grace, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind

msnbc has a list: The Aviator, Before Sunset, Blind Shaft, Fahrenheit 9/11, The Incredibles

roger ebert says: Million Dollar Baby, Kill Bill, Volume 2, Vera Drake, Spider-Man 2, Moolaade

cnn reports: Finding Neverland, Ray, Kinsey, The Aviator, The Motorcycle Diaries, The Incredibles

i have seen only four movies on these lists, one of which i would completely disagree that it should be on any 'best of 2004' list. that movie? spiderman 2. i just don't think it should be here. the best? nah.
where's shrek 2 and the butterfly effect? maybe this movie wasn't one of the best, but it was the film that surprised you most in 2004. and shrek 2, though maybe not the best of 2004, broke sales records all over the place.
i want to mention that sideways was on everyone's top ten list. what is this movie?
and i've never heard of million dollar baby.

these movies will have to be on my 'to rent in 2005' list. have you heard? blockbuster has no late fees.

Sunday, January 02, 2005

final game: 38-10 
it wasn't televised here so i was not able to watch it. what happened?
Eagles Fall To Bengals In Season Finale

oh no 
i can't seem to find eagles tickets for the march show in hampton.
but look what's on ebay: 2 TICKETS Eagles 3/15 Hampton Coliseum FLOOR A Row 1 $899.00
good golly, miss molly. if only.

you made it down here?

what? you want a reward?